Mad meets crazy! 😂
So, it has been 6 months since I made this “mammoth decision”, getting married, and 3 months into it. Did I know this person before? Did any of my relatives introduce this family to us? NO! Will his opinions match mine or understand the kind of person I am? I DON’T KNOW! So how did it all happen in such a short span? Well, I think some things are just meant to be and not to forget, being positive is the key.
My father had been looking for matches for me for a long time. He kept sending out various profiles that he received for me, from a very advanced “Whatsapp marriage group”, and like any other girl in her 23-24s, I kept rejecting them. It had been quite a while and I felt that I probably have been playing with his patience way too much. So I decided to give, any other match appealing to me, a shot. That is when I came across Rakendu’s profile. I was intrigued by his profile in various ways, he belonged to an offbeat profession- Movies, something that was an entirely different world to me. That given, he was looking for an arranged marriage, handsome yet single, someone into so much creativity is willing to see me, a 9-5 IT job person. I agreed to meet him as well and our parents spoke about when and hows.
The day finally came, I was all anxious, with a lot of thoughts revolving in my head. I even had a dream of meeting and rejecting him for not being able to speak in proper English!! How lame could I get! I had told my friends that I am going say no or get rejected anyways and come out with flying colors of successfully pushing forward my wedding and go single again for a lot more time. Although I had other plans, I decided to meet him with an open and positive mind.
They had entered the house and I was kept in hiding, until they requested to see me. My feet were trembling, I was in the middle of feeling pure amusement over the custom laid to see someone and nervousness. We were seated in front of the family in a typical Andhra style “pelli choopulu” pattern, with prospective bride and groom in the center. After some not being myself acts(being shy and keeping calm), while trying to steal a glance or two of how he looked like,our parents boasting about our achievements, we were allowed to talk to each other in person.
It was amusing and weird, thinking that people outside are waiting for us to talk for five minutes and decide whether we wanted to be together for the rest of our lives. This concept has always been a mystery to me.
We enter the room, the door is closed for us to talk in privacy. I did not know what to talk about, neither did he. Both of us did not prepare any questionnaire to ask. We started with “Its all so weird” and laughed at it, there were awkward, yet not so awkward pauses(if you know what I mean), we still somehow wanted and continued to talk. To our surprise, we did not realize that we had been talking for more than 40 minutes! In these 40 minutes we talked about Shah Rukh Khan, technically “Shah Rukh ne bana di jodi”, we are huge fans, we talked about interests, passion and special love towards art. All the forms that he learned during his childhood, and I am like wait a minute! Are you Robo 2.0??. We talked about how both of us have always been the kind of people who lived in the present, more than sobbing over past and waiting for future. I, apparently was also being sarcastic at one point(proud! Rarely do I use my brain).
So yeah! We talked a lot. Although I might not remember everything that we spoke, its not bad how I am able to remember the stuff better- given the Ghazini I am, I still can feel the moment. There was a spark in our conversation, it was effortless and I also discovered that a lot of his thoughts, opinions and ideas were aligned to mine. We followed our instincts, said “Yes” and rest is history.
Now when I look back at all this, I realized staying positive and open, helped to make a conscious decision.Our choices, decisions and reactions are all results of our state of mind. If you believe in yourself and stay positive, I am sure, there is no turning back.
PS: He really does speak in good English and I found myself , foolishly looking at him for the dream I had! LOL.